I’m convinced that many train wreck relationships are the direct result of compatible weaknesses. For those of you asking the question, “what are compatible weaknesses”, allow me to define the term for you.

For example, the man who feels inferior due to his small stature is drawn to the woman with self-esteem issues. He verbally and physically abuses and brainwashes her into believing “no one will love you like I do” for any number of reasons, real or imagined. She accepts the abuse believing he is indeed the best she will ever do. In some of these cases the man or woman realizes they can do better and they break from the constraints their weakness has thrust upon them. They do this knowing the aggressor will continue to try to manipulate them into the former way of thinking.

Then we have the perfect couples. On the outside they are the most beautiful physical specimens. Rich and famous. Sometimes talented. Secretly, they are intimidated by their own fame and struggle to mask the inferiority complex they battle. On the inside they feel as if they need to live up to a standard set by societal expectations so they find someone just like them. Beautiful on the outside, but shallow on the inside. These pressures drive some of them to public extremes. When I see these extremes I have to ask, does he love her? Does she feel loved?